Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Find a Way, or Find an Excuse

Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure. ~Don Wilder and Bill Rechin

"I don't have enough money." "I'm too tired." "I could never do that." "I don't have the resources." Anyone who has ever thought of enough reasons not to do something has done exactly that - nothing.

It might come off harsh sounding - but if you really want something, you'll get it. If you really want to do something, go someplace, talk to that person, get a job in that field, travel to that place, you will find a way. I've heard it so many times - people really want something, but talk themselves out of it, usually when they recognize the amount of work it's going to take to get whatever (or wherever) they want.

In our instant gratification driven society, if it can't happen in five minutes, get overnight shipped, instantly fixed or taken to-go, it doesn't seem worth it. Good things take time, patience, hard work, and above all else - a will to make them happen. It can be something as simple as literally climbing a mountain - you could say you are too tired, too out of shape, too scared, too whatever, and talk yourself out of it. You could also have a strong desire to teach English in China, but talk yourself out of it because you don't know anyone there, are afraid of a time commitment, don't have the funds for a plane ticket, etc.

There is a fine line between making an excuse and being able to say no. It's beneficial, healthy to say no. You can't say yes to absolutely everything - you don't have enough time or resources. But many things that are on your to-do list and your wish list are certainly attainable. Maybe not this week, or this month, or even this year, but if you want something you will find a way.

I feel so strongly about this philosophy, that if someone younger than me had to ask me for only one thing I have learned in my 25 years, it would be exactly that. If you want something, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find an excuse. This applies to everything: careers, friendships, relationships, everything. If you really want to move to New York City, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find a gazillion excuses (disguised as reasons) not to.

If you want to make your relationship work, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll throw in the towel and chalk it up to 'bad timing.' If you want to save up money to buy a new car, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll chalk it up to 'always getting the short end of the stick.' If you want to make it home for Christmas, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll chalk it up to 'living too far away and not having enough money.'

There are always a million easily accesable excuses right at your fingertips as to why something won't work out, why it can't work out, why your dreams will never come true. But the only person who decides those things is you. You hold the power to make it happen or make an excuse. So be bold, be daring, be adventurous, make it happen!

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